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Cats Won’t Answer Your Call Or Ring You Back

Cats Won’t Answer Your Call Or Ring You Back

…Even if they recognize you

cats, domestic cats, pets, animal behavior, voice recognition, calling, polygamy

Dear readers,

This is not about any breakthrough discovery in the field of Nano science. I am sorry, but I really need to talk and give vent to my feelings. I thought there was something special, a deep connection, but now I only feel betrayed and used like a servant.

Being cheated by someone you are sharing an everyday routine with is tough, but it is heartbreaking when a scientific study predicts it.

Let’s start from the beginning: we have been living together for over eight months, every night she was falling asleep in my arms and she was always greeting me once back home after a long day at work. I was so sorry to leave her alone for the weekend and asked a friend of mine to visit her during those days to feed her and clean her litter. Yes, right, the litter.

Oh blimey! Didn’t I mention I am talking about my cat?

Anyway, during my absence my friend became a perfect substitute: she was saving him all the attentions she normally set aside for me, even if he was not calling her with her own name but only “Kitty”.

I was confused and I could not understand if she was polyamorous or if I was just like anyone else to her. After a week of eating ice cream, watching “Sex and the City” and listening to “Quit playing games with my heart” (I apologize, I was a teenager when this song was released, so it will always be my break up theme), I recall a study on cat behavior.

In the article, the scientists proof that cats do not evidently set aside special attentions to their owners when called, even though they were able to recognize a familiar voice. Twenty domestic cats simply moved their head or their ears when called by whomever, owners or strangers, but almost no cat replied, “saying something”. They tried with everything: official names, nicknames, etc. but cats never said a word. In addition, hearing the owners’ voice did not result in a marked behavior: the cat response was equal.

I know, I should have seen it coming, but I thought she was different and this relationship was worthy. I thought that science simply could not explain such a lovely feeling. Do you think that adding someone into our relation would prevent us from breaking up? Or maybe getting married would help?

I am looking forward to your advice!

Desperate Girl in Love



Saito A, & Shinozuka K (2013). Vocal recognition of owners by domestic cats (Felis catus). Animal cognition, 16 (4), 685-90 PMID: 23525707

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vocal recognition, domestic cats, animal behavior, pet, polygamy

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  • Katja
    August 19, 2014, 16:41

    Okay, so now it is official. Cats are truly arrogant creatures.

  • mm
    Jeffrey Daniels
    August 28, 2014, 17:52

    As someone who has had pet cats in the past, I’ve noticed that in the short term cats will treat all humans equally (which is far more than what we humans can say for ourselves), but after several weeks of having your neighbour look after your cat when you’re gone s/he will usually begin to get antsy and will want their owner back in their life.
    Perhaps a long-term study of the sort mentioned should be undertaken (if it hasn’t already), to see if cats generally start preferring their owners after a week or two of separation from their owners; especially if the cats were chosen right at the six to wight week mark that kittens are typically sold to prospective owners.
    Anyway, neat article (I recommend a dog to cure your aching heart 😉 ).

  • Chiara Civardi
    September 1, 2014, 11:20

    Hi Jeffrey,
    I really appreciate your comments! Your suggestion make sense: maybe, as well as in “human relations”, distance may help appreciating the partner more 🙂
    …And thanks for the support 😉

    • mm
      Jeffrey Daniels@Chiara Civardi
      January 4, 2015, 21:28

      No problem! 😀
      And Happy New Year! (how’s it going with you and your cat? 😉 )